IAT Certified Coach · For women rebuilding after betrayal
There is a way out.
Coaching for women who have been through betrayal, cheating, divorce or unhealthy relationship patterns and feel like they lost themselves along the way. Using Integrated Attachment Theory, we work on what's keeping you stuck, so you can actually change it.
DOES THIS FEEL FAMILIAR?
You know something needs to change.
You just don't know how.
Maybe it was betrayal. Maybe divorce, or the same relationship pattern showing up again with someone new. Either way, somewhere along the way you stopped feeling like yourself.
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You keep asking yourself what you did wrong, or why this happened to you.
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You feel rejected, not good enough, angry, lost or scared. Sometimes all in the same day.
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You know a relationship isn't healthy, but leaving, letting go or not going back feels impossible.
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You start over with someone new, and the same problems show up again.
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You know you need better boundaries and to stop putting everyone else first. Knowing it just hasn't changed it.
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You're not sure what your own needs are anymore, or if you can trust your own decisions.
“I know this isn't working. So how do I actually change it?” Nothing is wrong with you. You're dealing with patterns no one ever taught you how to change.
THE DIFFERENCE
Awareness is not the end goal.
Change is.
You can understand for years why you react a certain way, why you choose certain relationships, or where a belief came from, and still keep doing the same thing.
TRADITIONAL ANALYSIS
Understanding Alone
You can explain your patterns. You've read the books and listened to the podcasts. But in the moment, you still react the same way.
- You know why it happens
- But you can't stop it from happening
- So you blame yourself, again
MY COACHING
Understanding + Change
We find what's underneath the problem, work on changing the beliefs and responses connected to it through subconscious reprogramming, and practice tools you can use in real situations.
- Get to what's underneath your reactions
- Rewire the beliefs keeping you stuck
- Practice tools in real situations
MY STORY
I've been where you are.
I know the way out.
I was married for 10 years and went through betrayal, cheating and divorce. I was left rebuilding my life while raising three children.
I tried therapy, books and podcasts. I understood a lot, but I was still stuck. Integrated Attachment Theory is what finally helped me change.
That change is why I became a Certified IAT Coach: to show women who feel lost, stuck and overwhelmed that even when everything feels dark, there is a way out.
THE PROGRAM
12 weeks. Six areas.
Real change.
We don't stop at understanding. Using Integrated Attachment Theory, we look at what's underneath your reactions and work on changing what's keeping you stuck.
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Core wounds and limiting beliefs. Find the beliefs driving your choices, and rewire them.
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Needs. Learn what you actually need, and how to meet it.
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Emotional patterns. Understand what's happening when you're triggered, and work through it.
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Boundaries. Set them and keep them, without the guilt.
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Communication. Say what you want and need, clearly.
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Behavioral patterns. Change the responses you later regret.
“You don't have to already understand what's keeping you stuck. That's part of the work.”
Carla Payton, IAT Certified Coach
WHAT YOU'LL LEAVE WITH
Tools that are yours
long after coaching ends.
The goal isn't to talk about the problem for years, or to depend on me. You leave with a deeper understanding of yourself and tools you know how to use on your own.
- Know what's happening when you're triggered
- Recognize your needs and communicate them
- Set and keep boundaries
- Work through emotions and change how you respond
Coaching, not therapy.
I'm an IAT Certified Coach, not a therapist. This is coaching: practical, forward-focused, and built around changing what's keeping you stuck.
YOUR 20-MINUTE DISCOVERY CALL
You don't have to know where to start.
That's part of the work.
A short, honest conversation about what's going on, what you want to change, and whether the 12-week program is the right fit. No pressure.
Confidential 1-on-1 call · No preparation needed
Pick a time
Choose a time that works for you on the calendar.
Step 1 · BookTell me what's going on
Where you are, what keeps happening, and what you want to change.
Step 2 · TalkLeave with a next step
You'll know whether the program fits and what working together would look like.
Step 3 · Next stepQUESTIONS & CLARITY
Before you book
Who this is for, how the coaching works, and what to expect.
Who is this for?
Women who have been through betrayal, cheating, divorce, heartbreak or unhealthy relationship patterns. Married, separated, divorced, single or dating.
Is this therapy?
No. I'm an IAT Certified Coach and this is coaching. It focuses on changing your patterns now, not only talking about the past.
How long is the program?
12 weeks.
What happens in the program?
We work through six areas: core wounds and limiting beliefs, needs, emotional patterns, boundaries, communication and behavioral patterns. You learn practical tools and use them in real situations.
Do I need to know what's wrong before I start?
No. You don't have to already understand what's keeping you stuck. We figure that out together.
What happens on the discovery call?
A 20-minute conversation about where you are, what you want to change, and whether the program is a fit.